PAIRS research-validated, evidence-based intensive skills training for couples and singles in any stage of relationship. PAIRS Essentials is a 9 Hour Curriculum: Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
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PAIRS research-validated, evidence-based intensive skills training for couples and singles in any stage of relationship.
As you will discover over the course of your personal participation, PAIRS is a carefully-crafted, integrative, highly experiential approach that begins with an understanding of emotions in ourselves and others and leads to development of emotional literacy in participants of all ages. In the PAIRS FOR OUR FUTURE/ FOR OUR FAMILY program, you will develop knowledge, new understandings and the ability to use practical skills that offer you a tool chest for a lifetime of opportunities to create and sustain profound relationships with those you love.
PAIRS Essentials is a 9 Hour Curriculum: Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
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El Manual de Acuerdos de PAIRS ha sido diseñado para ayudar a reforzar las habilidades aprendidas en las clases de PAIRS. También es muy bueno como una primera introducción a PAIRS. El manual de Acuerdos motiva al participante a reflexionar en sus valores personales y sus metas, le guía a poner sobre el papel una visión para su vida, su familia y el matrimonio y a la vez presenta al participante varias de las herramientas de PAIRS.
El Manual de Acuerdos de PAIRS ha sido diseñado para ayudar a reforzar las habilidades aprendidas en las clases de PAIRS. También es muy bueno como una primera introducción a PAIRS. El manual de Acuerdos motiva al participante a reflexionar en sus valores personales y sus metas, le guía a poner sobre el papel una visión para su vida, su familia y el matrimonio y a la vez presenta al participante varias de las herramientas de PAIRS.
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Sculpt Your Personal Relationship Road Map with these Conversations that Matter
Powerful tools for sculpting your personal relationship road map to wishes, hopes and dreams come true. Reinforces key exercises from PAIRS Essentials in a guided journey through personal goals and ambitions for love and life. Includes dozens of conversations that matter about Work, Time, Money, Health, Fun & Recreation, Friends & Relatives, Spirituality & Growth, Home & Housework, Death & Dying, Sexual Intimacy, Marriage/Commitment, and Children.
Whether this is a chance to reinforce and supplement your PAIRS experience or a beginning to your journey to intimacy, the Contracting Workbook will become a lifelong companion to update, revisit and share for years to come.
Powerful Relationship Building Tools
LOVE BANK. Learn to build a positive balance in your relationship Love Bank through regular deposits that let others know they’re important and cared about.
DAILY TEMPERATURE READING. One of the most important PAIRS tools for regularly watering the garden of your relationship by setting aside time free of distractions (15 - 20 minutes) on a regular basis to focus on each other and take turns confiding: (1) Appreciations (sincere and specific -- create a habit of acknowledging others and expressing gratitude), (2) New Information (what’s happening in your life? what’s on your mind?), (3) Puzzles (anything you’re wondering about), (4) Concerns with Recommendations (focus on the behavior not the person, include how you feel, and ask clearly for what you want instead), and (5) Wishes, Hopes, Dreams (for today, this week, this lifetime, or anywhere in between).
TALKING TIPS. Ten steps for exploring different dimensions of a concern or complaint. Can be done by yourself or to confide in your partner. When used for confiding, partner’s role is to listen attentively to each sentence stem and repeat back with empathy what was expressed without judging, criticizing, adding anything, or reacting.
EMPTYING THE EMOTIONAL JUG. Make room for positive emotions by regularly exercising -- with permission -- feelings such as anger, sadness, worry and fear with empathy and encouragement from your partner. Being able to listen with empathy without trying to fix, contradict, or judge emotions expressed by another person is a powerful process for deepening empathy and expanding opportunities for love and joy.
POWERGRAM. Head off power struggles before they begin by agreeing what decisions require agreement or discussion and which ones can be made independently. A key step to identify issues requiring greater attention and discussion.
JOURNALING. Reflect on your goals, values, and ambitions and create a journal that can be shared and revisited as you create a road map to dreams come true.
Sculpt Your Personal Relationship Road Map with these Conversations that Matter
Powerful tools for sculpting your personal relationship road map to wishes, hopes and dreams come true. Reinforces key exercises from PAIRS Essentials in a guided journey through personal goals and ambitions for love and life. Includes dozens of conversations that matter about Work, Time, Money, Health, Fun & Recreation, Friends & Relatives, Spirituality & Growth, Home & Housework, Death & Dying, Sexual Intimacy, Marriage/Commitment, and Children.
Whether this is a chance to reinforce and supplement your PAIRS experience or a beginning to your journey to intimacy, the Contracting Workbook will become a lifelong companion to update, revisit and share for years to come.
Powerful Relationship Building Tools
LOVE BANK. Learn to build a positive balance in your relationship Love Bank through regular deposits that let others know they’re important and cared about. Become comfortable confiding what makes you feel cared about and asking others to let you know. Love has the best chance of thriving in relationships in which we’re a pleasure to each other.
DAILY TEMPERATURE READING. One of the most important PAIRS tools for regularly watering the garden of your relationship by setting aside time free of distractions (15 - 20 minutes) on a regular basis to focus on each other and take turns confiding: (1) Appreciations (sincere and specific -- create a habit of acknowledging others and expressing gratitude), (2) New Information (what’s happening in your life? what’s on your mind?), (3) Puzzles (anything you’re wondering about), (4) Concerns with Recommendations (focus on the behavior not the person, include how you feel, and ask clearly for what you want instead), and (5) Wishes, Hopes, Dreams (for today, this week, this lifetime, or anywhere in between).
TALKING TIPS. Ten steps for exploring different dimensions of a concern or complaint. Can be done by yourself or to confide in your partner. When used for confiding, partner’s role is to listen attentively to each sentence stem and repeat back with empathy what was expressed without judging, criticizing, adding anything, or reacting. At the end of this confiding exercise, you can reverse roles, have a conversation about whatever was shared, or simply appreciate each other for sharing and listening.
EMPTYING THE EMOTIONAL JUG. Make room for positive emotions by regularly exercising -- with permission -- feelings such as anger, sadness, worry and fear with empathy and encouragement from your partner. One person asks questions according to the script and listens while the speaker searches inside for emotions that may be getting in the way of love, pleasure, and happiness. Always keep in mind that our emotional reactions are about us, not others. Being able to listen with empathy without trying to fix, contradict, or judge emotions expressed by another person is a powerful process for deepening empathy and expanding opportunities for love and joy.
POWERGRAM. Head off power struggles before they begin by agreeing what decisions require agreement or discussion and which ones can be made independently. Remember to revisit your Powergram regularly as circumstances change. A key step to identify issues requiring greater attention and discussion.
JOURNALING. Reflect on your goals, values, and ambitions and create a journal that can be shared and revisited as you create a road map to dreams come true.
PAIRS Essentials is a 9 Hour Curriculum: Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
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PAIRS research-validated, evidence-based intensive skills training for couples and singles in any stage of relationship. PAIRS Essentials is a 9 Hour Curriculum: Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
Order Notes for PAIRS Instructors: If you are using or intend on using this curriculum as a teaching aid, please indicate the date of your upcoming class or event, class location, and the full name of the instructor/s teaching this class. This information should be entered below the quantity specification in the typing space provided. Your order may include Wallet Cards, Electronic PAIRS Essentials Love Notes, and Client Satisfaction Survey, upon request.
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PAIRS Essentials Christian Edition (2010) is a 9 Hour Curriculum that follows the PAIRS Essentials content closely with minor changes meant to accommodate Christian audiences*.
Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
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*Please note that Christian PAIRS (2002) is not being promoted or sold by PAIRS at this time, as it is outdated and does not reflect the lessons learnt by PAIRS research post 2007. If you are a PAIRS Christian Instructor and are not familiar with PAIRS Essentials, please contact the office at info@pairs.com or (877) PAIRS- 4U for additional information.
PAIRS research-validated, evidence-based intensive skills training for couples and singles in any stage of relationship. PAIRS Essentials is a 9 Hour Curriculum: Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
Order Notes for PAIRS Instructors: If you are using or intend on using this curriculum as a teaching aid, please indicate the date of your upcoming class or event, class location, and the full name of the instructor/s teaching this class. This information should be entered below the quantity specification in the typing space provided. This 20 pack, does not include wallet cards.
Order Notes for NON-PAIRS Instructors: If you are using or intend on using this curriculum as a resource material and do not intend on using it as a teaching aid, please indicate “individual use” below (below the quantity specification line) in the typing space provided.
PAIRS research-validated, evidence-based intensive skills training for couples and singles in any stage of relationship. PAIRS Essentials is a 9 Hour Curriculum: Essential tool box for enhanced communication, empathy, problem solving, and emotional connection delivered over three intensive weekly sessions: the Heart of Intimacy, Constructive Conflict, Emotional Literacy. Discover the essential skills that have helped tens of thousands create and sustain successful relationships that are an ongoing source of love, pleasure, and happiness.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
Order Notes for PAIRS Instructors: If you are using or intend on using this curriculum as a teaching aid, please indicate the date of your upcoming class or event, class location, and the full name of the instructor/s teaching this class. This information should be entered below the quantity specification in the typing space provided. This 20 pack, does not include wallet cards.
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PAIRS for Life is a research-validated approach* to deepening intimacy and strengthening relationships. Includes four weekly three-hour classes (plus alumni sessions) excerpted from the hallmark PAIRS Mastery Program for married and committed couples and individuals in any stage of relationship. Understand the Logic of Love and Emotions, Enhance Communication and Conflict Resolution Skills, Learn to Deepen Intimacy and Connection with Loved Ones, and Discover Proven Tools for Creating Lasting, Happy, Healthy, Successful Relationships. Classes meet in a private group settings, with brief lectures followed by strong emphasis on practical, easy to use, relationship building tools through interactive exercises with your partner.
This curriculum may be used as a resource by individuals or as a teaching aid by licensed PAIRS professionals only.*Please indicate order purpose or use in the space below quantity.
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